Have you ever been disorientated facing your child's behaviour, not knowing how to solve a problem in a gentle manner that would teach your child how to become autonomous and not turn you into “the big bad wolf?”

You may have experienced some of the following behaviours with your child, and wonder how to help her in these situations:

Bossiness:

Refusal to cooperate and listen. Endless discussions around rules and how things 'should' be. Defiance, provocation, and bargaining ('If you do not do that, I will not do that').

Lying:

Unfairness with younger children, and especially younger siblings as a revenge. Cheating, emotional abuse, name calling,whining, restlessness, very vocal and physically active behaviours.

Clinginess:

Difficulty in parting from parents and care-givers that manifests in excessive crying, and/or screaming. Regressive behaviours, like behaving as a little child again. Difficulties in growing up: for example, difficulty in transitioning away from nappies.

Defeatism:

Giving up or not willing to try anything new, afraid of failure.

Difficulty in making friends:

Not wanting to join a group for what is considered 'fun-activities.'

Fears of invisible things:

Ghosts, monsters, or the dark.

Unexpected tantrums and irrational/sudden reactions:

Rapid shifts in mood.

Bullying:

Attacking or mocking other children, using violence to make himself heard. Acting out physical violence, with siblings and parents, or peers. Aggression.

Silence and shyness:

The child unconsciously shuts down and refuses to communicate about what bothers him or even knocks his analysis ability down, negating anything bad happened. Victim mentality, possibly enabling bullying from others. Sadness, or a temporary absence of aliveness.

Conformism:

The absence of healthy confronting behaviours, always saying 'yes', subjecting to peer pressure.

Sleeping issues:

Trouble falling asleep because of overstimulation and excitement, occasional nightmares or night terrors. Wetting the bed, at an advanced age.

Sudden development of performance issues:

Performance drop-off in a child who usually performs well for no apparent reason: perfectionism, fear of disappointing and self-sabotage. Not wanting to worry the parent, minimizing the impact of a traumatic episode, 'Oh, it was not that important.'

Examples of Aspects Specific to Gifted Children:

Spirited and intense child, strong-willed. Often judged as having ‘too much energy.’ Knows well how to push people’s buttons.
Living in his head, focusing ravenously on abstract and lonely activities.
Trouble connecting with others, and having sustained conversation with them.
Suddenly dropping attention, and leaving discussions, making it difficult to connect with him because when he is not interested anymore he goes back into his world.

Very sensitive to others’ moods and emotions.

Only one friend, or imaginary friends.
Gets teased by other children for being different.
Occasional nightmares or night terrors.
Intense fears of invisible things: ghosts, monsters, the dark.
Has an acute sensitivity to her environment: strong lighting, sounds, smells, or to what touches her skin.
Sometimes has really intense episodes which can cause trouble at school or in groups. Highly independent to the point of being labeled ‘non-compliant’ and ‘over-creative’ by some.

Do you feel there is more to these situations and would like to learn new tools to dissolve tensions in your relationship with your child?
Would you like to feel empowered in your role as a parent?