Have you ever been disorientated facing your child's behavior, not knowing how to solve a problem in a gentle manner that would teach your child how to become autonomous and not turn you into “the big bad wolf”?

You may have experienced some of the following behaviors with your child, and wonder how to help her in these situations

Bossiness:

Refusal to cooperate and listen. Endless discussions around rules and how things 'should' be. Defiance, provocation, and bargaining ('If you do not do that, I will not do that')

Lying:

Unfairness with younger children, and especially younger siblings as a revenge. Cheating, emotional abuse, name calling,whining, restlessness, very vocal and physically active behaviors

Clinginess:

Difficulty in parting from parents and care-givers that manifests in excessive crying, and/or screaming. Regressive behaviors, like behaving as a little child again. Difficulties in growing up: for example, difficulty in transitioning away from nappies

Defeatism:

Giving up or not willing to try anything new, afraid of failure

Difficulty in making friends:

Not wanting to join a group for what is considered 'fun-activities'

Fears of invisible things:

Ghosts, monsters, or the dark

Unexpected tantrums and irrational/sudden reactions:

Rapid shifts in mood

Bullying:

Attacking or mocking other children, using violence to make himself heard. Acting out physical violence, with siblings and parents, or peers. Aggression

Silence and shyness:

The child unconsciously shuts down and refuses to communicate about what bothers him or even knocks his analysis ability down, negating anything bad happened. Victim mentality, possibly enabling bullying from others. Sadness, or a temporary absence of aliveness

Conformism:

The absence of healthy confronting behaviors, always saying 'yes', subjecting to peer pressure

Sleeping issues:

Trouble falling asleep because of overstimulation and excitement, occasional nightmares or night terrors. Wetting the bed, at an advanced age

Sudden development of performance issues:

Performance drop-off in a child who usually performs well for no apparent reason: perfectionism, fear of disappointing and self-sabotage. Not wanting to worry the parent, minimizing the impact of a traumatic episode, 'Oh, it was not that important'

Examples of Aspects Specific to Gifted Children

Spirited and intense child, strong-willed. Often judged as having ‘too much energy’

Sometimes has really intense episodes which can cause trouble at school or in groups

Highly independent to the point of being labeled ‘non-compliant’ and ‘over-creative’ by some

Knows well how to push people’s buttons

Living in his head, focusing ravenously on abstract and lonely activities

Trouble connecting with others, and having sustained conversation with them

Very sensitive to others’ moods and emotions

Has an acute sensitivity to her environment: strong lighting, sounds, smells, or to what touches her skin

Only one friend, or imaginary friends

Gets teased by other children for being different

Occasional nightmares or night terrors
Intense fears of invisible things: ghosts, monsters, the dark

 

 

Do you feel there is more to these situations, and would like to learn new tools to dissolve tensions in your relationship with your child?
Would you like to feel empowered in your role as a parent?